🫣 Fear → What if he doesn't seek treatment or it treatment doesn't work?

😖 Frustration → Our relationship seems broken and I don't know how to fix it - what if nothing changes?

😔 Worry → I'm afraid he won't ever heal or he'll hurt himself...or....SO much worry & uncertainty!

💔 Hurt → He can't love me the way I need right now - will he ever be able to?

🥹 Shame → How can I worry about myself when HE is the one who's suffering?!

The truth is, it’s downright difficult to find support and resources for the spouses, partners, and loved ones of people who struggle with stress and dysregulation from trauma.

It’s a terribly lonely, isolating, and frustrating journey that few people understand....

After my own journey through the fear and chaos of living with (and loving) a trauma survivor with PTSD, I’ve assembled the best tools and healing techniques to help people like you who are travelling the same road.

I want you to know this doesn’t have to be a journey of desperation and despair...it’s a journey of hope and healing.

"What Carla's doing is important. When your partner suffers trauma, it impacts your marriage and your family. Because of my husband’s line of work, I see a lot of partners suffering. Marriages falling apart. There’s a lot of collateral damage that people don’t really talk about. But, sweeping it under the rug isn't helpful. There's a real need for this work and I hope the people who are ready for healing will find their way to her."

- Christine, Road to Resilience Coaching Program Participant

“What do I do if my (husband, spouse, partner, child) has PTSD or complex trauma?”

How many times have you Googled that phrase?

I’ve probably searched that or other variations a few thousand times.

Here’s my story:

Over 10 years ago, our family was thrown a curve ball when my spouse, Murray, was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

It was a challenging and scary time for me - and really for both of us, as partners and parents.

And, while I’m grateful that Murray could access the help he needed, I was completely in the dark and my nervous system was ringing alarm bells for me.

As a partner of a trauma survivor working on healing PTSD/complex trauma, I felt isolated, unsupported, and overwhelmed.

My emotional state was threatening my marriage and affecting how I was showing up as a parent.

I was feeling pretty helpless and hopeless.

But I’m naturally optimistic and resourceful. So I rolled up my sleeves and started researching all the things I could do to get back to the old me, repair my relationship and better support my family.

I did a LOT of reading!

I tried finding help and support everywhere: my physician, local mental health nurses, coaching, therapists and alternative healing practices — but many of them couldn’t understand my experience.

You name it, I tried it.

And over time I found the right combination of coaching, therapies, somatic modalities, and nervous system support that began to work for me.

The darkness and heaviness inside of me lifted. I started to feel like my old self again. I began to heal from the grief of losing the life I thought I’d have.

I felt hope for my future and my family again.

I now have tools to manage my own emotions and support my family.

And when *stuff* starts to hit the fan (because it always does), I have strategies to find my calm again.

It breaks my heart that so many loved ones are out there searching for help as they navigate the often lonely road of loving and supporting someone with post-traumatic stress (PTSD/OSI) or complex trauma (cPTSD).

I now know that my mission is to hold space and support others in a way that I wish I could have had while I was struggling.

"Honestly, I'm not sure I would have made it this far in my relationship. Not that staying with your partner is the 'top' goal necessarily, but for me I feel like without the guidance and tools that I received throughout the process, I would not have been able to find my way. I think that I would most likely still be feeling extremely lost and depressed, not that I don't still at times, but I know that there is progress, and that little by little the change that I wanted is manifesting in my life.."

— Anonymous, Road To Resilience Participant

Hi there! I’m Carla Dawes

Founder of Rising Into Resilience and creator of the Road to Resilience Group Coaching & Healing Program

Carla's Credentials:

Certified Emotional Success Specialist
Certified, Accredited, Advanced EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tapping Practitioner (EFT International)
Certified Master Conscious EFT™ Practitioner (NeftTI)
Somatic Stress Release™ Practitioner
B.A. Psychology, Sociology
Thriving wife to Murray, an amazing human with complex trauma/PTSD
Mama to Colton, Stepmom (I prefer BONUS mom) to Chelsea , and thrilled to be a new Grandma!

I spent my life seeking growth, adventure, and self improvement.

FINALLY, in my mid-40s, I feel like I’m living... it's not too late for you, my friend. 🙂

As a natural born coach/cheerleader, I’ve always found myself in roles where I’m looking out for the well-being of others, including managing support services for Canadian & International Peacekeepers in Bosnia & Afghanistan...

I’ve spent nearly 5 years coaching hosting in-person transformational retreats for women in mid-life, and for the last few years, as founder of Rising Into Resilience, I've used my training as an Emotional Success Specialist, Master EFT Practitioner, and Somatic Stress Release Practitioner to hold space for, guide, and support hundreds of amazing humans (like you!) who are in relationships with loved ones who've experienced trauma.

I have a lot to share with you, my friend!

14 years ago I embarked on one of the hardest, and yet most gratifying, journeys: the birth of my son...and the untimely emergence of my husband’s PTSD a couple years later.

At times it was a gruelling journey, I’m not going to lie.

But I eventually found tools and techniques that gave me immediate relief. I learned how to manage my boundaries, which improved my relationship and helped me better interact with and support my spouse.

I can say in all honesty, we have a truly wonderful life together today.

Not without bumps, but we're so much better equipped to navigate those now!

In Road to Resilience, I share the exact tools and strategies I used to:

✅ understand my nervous system and activate strategies to consistently self- and co-regulate ✨

✅ recognize and effectively respond to my loved one's PTSD and complex trauma symptoms 🚧

✅ release my grief, frustration, self-judgment, and overwhelm 😌

✅ learn how to better communicate and support my partner, repair and resolve conflicts 🌼

✅ find a path to peace, and freedom from chaos and uncertainty 💛

Know this my friend: there is light and hope at the end of this road for you.

My road led me here: to integrate my training as a coach and facilitator with my personal experience in relationship with a trauma survivor. My road led me here to support you... 💟

"Carla entered into my life at a time were I was kinda lost. I was really struggling with who I am and how to grow and love the relationships in my life. Carla and I really connected, I felt like she really understood me. She helped me understand the most important relationship! That was with myself! In order to be present and the best for those people I needed to Love me first! Carla was able to help me create a way for me to come back to me , take a moment , take a breath and understand the only approval I need is mine ! And with that my relationships around me have gotten stronger! Life is busy and crazy but it's important to take time each day to pause, just do me and LOVE me!"

- R, Private Coaching Client

Frequently Asked Questions

1. WHAT WILL WE LEARN EACH WEEK?

HOW IS THE PROGRAM DELIVERED?

After you complete your invitation call with Carla and join, you will receive a welcome email and program information, including being given access to your own private account in our online Learning Portal.

Learning Module Calls — Once a week (Mondays at 3pm Pacific), we’ll join together in 90 minute group calls via Zoom Conferencing for weekly somatic nervous system co-regulation, learning modules, and coaching. Calls will be recorded so you can watch the replay anytime (+ lifetime access). First call is Monday, January 22nd.

Empowerment Exercises — Each week, through our online Learning Portal, you’ll receive a Learning Module with Empowerment Exercises to guide you through the deep work to find healing and give you momentum. This should take approximately 1 hour per week.

Open Coaching Calls (optional) — Finally, you can join an additional 1-hour Q&A / Open Coaching call (also via Zoom) on Sundays. Our first Sunday call is Sunday, January 28th. You can bring any questions, confusion, problems or personal challenges to these calls and receive open coaching in the group to get Carla's support to work through them. Open coaching calls will NOT be recorded).

Optional Private Sessions — During the program and for 1 month after it's complete, you will be given the option to book bonus, private, one-to-one coaching sessions with Carla for just $100 each (regular single session rates are $175). You can book as many of these as you want during the 3 month period starting January 22, 2024.

Here’s a snapshot of some of the topics we’ll cover each week in the program:

2. HOW DO I KNOW IF MY LOVED ONE HAS TRAUMA, PTSD or COMPLEX TRAUMA?

If you suspect your partner is struggling with post-traumatic stress or complex trauma (also known as developmental/relational trauma), the best way to know for sure is to see your familly doctor or a mental health professional.

Ultimately, if your loved one is exhibiting some of the symptoms shown in the graphic below, it is possible they have PTSD, an operational stress injury, or complex trauma. Although an official diagnosis must come from a mental health professional, there are numerous things you and your loved one can do to minimize the symptoms they are experiencing.

Complex trauma is not currently a diagnosis in North America; however, many health care professionals are learning more about CPTSD and can support your loved one to find suitable support systems and develop a suitable treatment plan, if they're open to that. My personal recommendation is a plan that includes somatic (body-based) modalities for healing trauma and coping with nervous system dysregulation, including supports such as EFT tapping, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems (parts work), mindfulness and compassion,

If your loved one is a veteran, first responder, emergency services or corrections personnel, gently and lovingly suggest they speak to their human resources department to see what mental health assessment services are available.

If you or your loved one is in crisis, please dial 911 or contact your local Crisis Support Line immediately.

If your loved one is feeling fearful & threatened at the thought of speaking to someone, there are various self-assessments available online. The PTSD Association of Canada has a few on their self-assessments page.

If you're here, it means you're struggling and seeking solutions — Road to Resilience can help regardless of whether your loved one is diagnosed or receiving treatment. Give it a try, you've got nothing to lose.

3. ISN'T IT MY PARTNER/LOVED ONE THAT NEEDS HELP?

I hear you.

When I was embarking on our journey with PTSD, I was so focused on helping my partner heal, that I let my own self-care go on the back burner….which can have devastating results for your own mental health and well-being (it did for me).

I was experiencing chronic stress and I started check out, pull away, feel isolated, and burn out.

Over time, this can lead heightened stress responses of your own and an over-activated nervous system, often know as secondary trauma, vicarious trauma, caregiver burnout, or compassion fatigue. It can negatively affect our relationships and how we interact with our children and community.

In my experience (and I've supported hundreds of clients through this), understanding your own emotional triggers, reactions, beliefs, and patterns can be the best way to serve and support our loved ones.

You spend so much of your energy caring for and supporting your loved one; I’ve created this space to care for and support YOU.

Maybe it's time to support yourself to implement the nervous system regulation strategies, healthy communication techniques, conflict repair, and co-regulation that will help your loved one heal.

4. WHAT'S THE COST OF THE PROGRAM? DO YOU OFFER PAYMENT PLANS? WHAT ABOUT A MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE?

The cost to join the program is $1,397 USD, which can be paid in full or split into 2 or 3 payments (at no extra cost).

I acknowledge that this is a big investment for people, and I totally understand why people are concerned, especially in these troubling times. You've probably also bought other courses and tried many therapies that have come up short....what if this doesn't help?

To work privately with me starts at $175/hour; working with other trauma coaches or therapists costs between $150-200 per hour - and you usually need MONTHS of sessions to see the kind of transformation people experience in this program!

In Road to Resilience, you receive:

12 hours of trauma-safe group coaching (Value: $2,100)
8 hours of Q&A/Open Coaching (Value: $1,400)
The Workbooks, Somatic Practices, Empowerment Exercises, and other tools (Value: $3,000) that can dramatically shift your well-being.
Voice memo coaching support from Carla via What's App (Value: $300)

‼️ TOTAL VALUE OF $6,800 for just $1,397‼️

Plus the extra bonuses that we haven't calculated into this value:

— bonus modules, discounted sessions, private encrypted connection group, Voice Memo coaching, and more!

I want you to receive timely support, so if you're struggling now, I want you to get support now, before more harmful patterns take root. In the spirit of that, I also offer additional, customized payment plans upon request. We can chat about it in your Application/Invitation call.

30-Day No-Risk Guarantee

I’m so confident that you’ll see a transformation that I offer a 30-day money back guarantee.

If you find the program and teachings aren’t for you, we'll connect privately to discuss, and I will support you to receive a full refund if that's what will serve you best.

If you're in relationship with a trauma survivor, you're probably feeling overwhelmed, scared, and alone.

I've walked a mile in your shoes my friend.

I'd love to welcome you to join

Road to Resilience

where the loved ones and supporters of trauma survivors will learn how to heal, find hope, and live peacefully again

(because you will - I promise!)

Can you imagine how you'll feel when you:

Hi there! I’m Carla Dawes

Road to Resilience is perfect for you if:

This program isn’t for you if:

Frequently Asked Questions

30-Day No-Risk Guarantee

MORE QUESTIONS? NOT SURE IF THIS IS FOR YOU?

Follow this link to my booking calendar where you can book a complimentary 30-minute connection call.

Join Road to Resilience today and learn to:

✅ Release your fears, grief, and frustration

✅ Better communicate with and support your loved one

✅ Find YOUR path to peace and freedom

Registration NOW OPEN!
Closes January 21st at 5pm Pacific!

If you're in relationship with a trauma survivor, you're probably feeling overwhelmed, scared, and alone.

I've walked a mile in your shoes my friend.

I'd love to welcome you to join

Road to Resilience

where the loved ones and supporters of trauma survivors will learn how to heal, find hope, and live peacefully again

(because you will - I promise!)

Can you imagine how you'll feel when you:

Hi there! I’m Carla Dawes

Road to Resilience is perfect for you if:

This program isn’t for you if:

Frequently Asked Questions

30-Day No-Risk Guarantee

MORE QUESTIONS? NOT SURE IF THIS IS FOR YOU?

Follow this link to my booking calendar where you can book a complimentary 30-minute connection call.

Join Road to Resilience today and learn to:

✅ Release your fears, grief, and frustration

✅ Better communicate with and support your loved one

✅ Find YOUR path to peace and freedom

Registration NOW OPEN!Closes January 21st at 5pm Pacific!

Registration NOW OPEN!
Closes January 21st at 5pm Pacific!